Question and queries regarding sexuality of both
sexes are bread and butter in daily medical practice. Sex pace for
one question most frequently asked, whether men or women, both sexes
share issues of common ground on each other's sexual appetite. Some
complain of partner's wishes of having sex everyday, or even many times a
day. For these folks a situation such as this translates an abnormality in
itself, since lacking of the same level of libido, they take that their partners
have an exaggerated libido. In my own clinical practice, such complaint comes up
mostly amongst women, what doesn't necessarily means that men don't place it as
well.
Others complain, on the other hand, that their partners don't
display the same desire or disposition as them. Such complaint more frequently
in the male population, what doesn't necessarily mean that women with the same
complaint don't exist.
As a matter of sexual frequency between partners,
generally, it's directly linked to each one's libido, as well as the
sexual routine by them established. Libido is the translation of the
human sexual desire, featuring variations of intensity- whether less or
more, in different individuals. As it so happens, when one of the partners
displays stronger libido than the other, in turn ends up by offloading a certain
degree of discomfort on the sexual relation, which it's denominated
sexual inadequacy.
Yet, there are external factors that may interfere in
sexual life, by influencing directly on the libido, such as,
social-cultural factors, financial-matters, kids, family and work hectic, health
problems, amongst others. It means that, regardless of gender, the way
individuals deal with conflicts resulting from such factors, ends by interfering
in their sexual appetite.
It's imperative to know if each one's libido has suffered
alterations over a given period, for example, if sexual appetite were
intense and from some point on turn out different decreasingly.
Seemingly, that in such cases scrutiny by a field professional
becomes hallmark in order to discard or diagnose any incipient dysfunction, so
as to treat it as precociously as possible.
As for sex pace, sex partners establish frequency
of sexual relations from scratch. I considered perfectly acceptable that a
relationship begins quite intense and as time goes by certain natural decline
takes hold.
Bear with me that the middle-age period usually implies in
physiological drop in sexual desire.
Disregarding of the reason for discrepancies in levels of
libido, a catching up between the couple is essential in order to get around
such nuisance, often responsible for rows and disputes, thus rendering your
sexual life less frustrating and more pleasurable.