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When
it comes to sex many are the factors that interfere on the quest for mature
sexuality rapport. Sexual drive of partners, discrepancies between men and
women, inadequate information about the subject, myths, tales and taboos,
socio-cultural inequalities, religious values, among others. So, then, what's
sexual maturity? How would we know whether such maturity blossomed forth?
In my
understanding sexual maturity takes place along the years, from lifetime
experiences. As times goes by one learns that sex goes beyond pleasure itself.
Sex means pleasure, life, sentiment, balance, trade off, it's sharing moments
that go beyond the matching of two bodies.
The
youth in their eagerness-driven life, for experiencing the world, end up by
starting their sexuality obeying desire solely. Sex is just for the sake of sex.
Given that most current relationships are discardable, there is certain fluidity
for partner-dumping, and the youngster winds up by living up sex as a string of
commotions whose success or failure would do anything but further annoyance.
Only by then some decide to seek adequate information as to how prevent some
undesired pregnancy or any given sexually infected disease.
As
time follows its flow and life demands bigger compromising and responsibility of
each one, the young more matured by studies and professional stability, family,
among others, learns to perceive well beyond the act itself. Sex aside desire,
means dedication, it's experiences trade off, it's wearing condoms.
Those
who learn and accept this change towards sexuality being self-proclaimed over
fulfilled when the bottom line is sexual realization. Far from meaning that
desire is lesser than it ever was; only just that sex starts encompassing other
elements that surpass pleasure simply for the sake of it.
When
referring to maturity there should be inferred that maturity of the human being
leads him to developing certain responsibility and commitment with the one's own
life, as well as in relation to peers. The same happens, in my understanding
regarding sexuality.
Sexual maturity or mature sexuality takes place when people besides
seeking the most diverse modes to fulfill their own desires, yet learn to
consider the other's in this search. It concerns mostly with regard to
consideration, feelings towards oneself and to the other.
I
don't believe in magic potions so maturity-orientated, though the ingredients
described above are fundamental and only met ends within constant
apprentice.
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